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Preferred pronouns should not be used by feminists as a reward for perceived moderation. Doing so says to #transwidows “we disagree with genderism over all, but we’ll call *your* ex a woman if he acts nicely to us”.
And women who are able to tweet under their real name (often because they are making a living from this so it’s in their interests to do so), should not look down on those of us who have to be anonymous here, for our own safety/ livelihood
Because then this becomes a class issue where those with the financial and physical security to be able to take the risk are seen as automatically superior to those of us who cannot.
I'm fairly new to feminism. I naively thought the purpose was women supporting each other against those seeking to hurt our rights.
Today my belief was torn away.
Ive seen woman being nasty, viscous, spiteful, who rather than stand together undermine the efforts of other women
Today my belief was torn away.
Ive seen woman being nasty, viscous, spiteful, who rather than stand together undermine the efforts of other women
Women too bitter to acknowledge the good one woman has done herself and the courage of the Aus women speaking. How she has raised the profile of women's rights in a calm and dignified way, even under attack. In a voice that people are listening to.
All completely ignored...
All completely ignored...
To score points against her for something she not only had no control over but something that didn't dignify a response.
It's shocking to see women do this.
It's not a feminism I want any part of.
I will continue to support women, especially #transwidows to highlight our lives
It's shocking to see women do this.
It's not a feminism I want any part of.
I will continue to support women, especially #transwidows to highlight our lives
I think if you ask any #transwidows what turned their #AGP husbands on most they would say a mirror.
I'd find my clothes ruined with baby oil because he'd been dressing up when I was at work. So many split seams and zips.
And he'd leave his 'trophies' on the floor for me...
I'd find my clothes ruined with baby oil because he'd been dressing up when I was at work. So many split seams and zips.
And he'd leave his 'trophies' on the floor for me...
Nothing turns an #AGP on more than the pornified imagine of himself. They literally create their perfect slutty woman. This is why the dressing up is not age appropriate and you see 50/60/70 year old men dressed as school girls.
Odd fact (NOT), trans identified women don't do it.
Odd fact (NOT), trans identified women don't do it.
I'm a person who has a couple of drawers full of knickers.
He would steal used women's knickers and tuck them in my drawer.
When I found out I went ballistic. He laughed and said it turned him on to see I'd worn them without realising a)they weren't mine and b) they were soiled.
He would steal used women's knickers and tuck them in my drawer.
When I found out I went ballistic. He laughed and said it turned him on to see I'd worn them without realising a)they weren't mine and b) they were soiled.
🙄 When therapist give men letters for them to transition the courts order their name and sex marker changed on documents. This edict is no more of a medical treatment for disordered thinking than using a scalpel to create a wound and calling it a vagina.
What Christina is advocating for isnt a right but a form of authoritarianism. The psychological community enables narcissistic and fetishistic adults to gaslight the world with "this is how I feel comfortable" while women are displaced in female only spaces.
It is problematic for many reasons. Coming into agreement with a lie has consequences for society. Free speech becomes threatened as well as freedom of religion and conscience.
Trans widows know all about disgust, we feel it when our husbands start growing their nails, and shaving their bodies, and wearing secret frilly knickers to work. We try to overcome the disgust at first to keep our families together, but it’s always there.
We’re told we shouldn’t feel disgust, that we’re seeing the real them, who we should love.
Trans widows feel disgust when they’re coerced into sex with husbands dressed in tacky women’s clothes and using strap ons but they’re told not to kink shame and to do it if we love them.
Trans widows feel disgust when they’re coerced into sex with husbands dressed in tacky women’s clothes and using strap ons but they’re told not to kink shame and to do it if we love them.
Repeatedly as the situation escalates we’re told to overcome our disgust and that it’s wrong and cruel and unloving for us to feel this entirely involuntary emotion.
The most notable thing about the article by Jan Morris’s daughter is that anybody’s surprised by the neglect and emotional abuse. Newsflash:it’s still there even if the perpetrator is clever or is one of your social class. We’ve been telling our stories. Why haven’t you listened?
The assumption that a wife or a child who is silent about this, was somehow happy with it, is a convenient way for people to cop out of dealing with what we go through.
And to cop out of confronting the fact that even in their social class, or their profession, or in their political tribe, the abusive dynamics of this remain the same.
For some time we have been predicting that when our exes begin to detransition it will result in just another round of attention and sympathy causing further silencing of #transwidows
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100% the usual AGP story, tried on sisters clothes in adolescence, got married, had kids, successful career, late transitioner yada yada yada
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If detransitioners are serious about atoning for the damage they have done to themselves and others,they need to have a long and serious period of reflection and learning. Swapping the affirmation of one side of the debate for the other does nobody any favours. Least of all us.
Good evening to Aussies & Good afternoon, Good morning to anyone else around the planet who comes across this thread. Time has been spent this week looking after real life issues outside of the internet. Today's thread is again about misogyny, AGP trans person, & transwidows
I've come across this article by Tatum Street in the Spectator, spectator.com.au/2022/10/austra…. I don't think she quite understands the role of AGP in trans women, but does use a well known ex AFL footballer as an example, so I'll run with it. 2/* #transwidowsOz #transwidows
Men who abuse women, are feted, particularly celebrity but when you add in a dash of blue & pink, it absolves one of their sins. Recently a #transwidow discovered her ex husband, an AGP trans person was showcased at a feminist event. It stopped her from speaking up. 3/*
Good afternoon everyone, in Australia, it's a great day if the Federal ICAC passes through parliament, to friends on the other side of the planet, winter is coming, buckle up. Getting to today's subject of sex, kinks etc. 1/*
Today is part IV from @PankhurstEM 's written analysis of AGP men in relationships and the role of pornography has in the development of this paraphilia. uncommongroundmedia.com/agp-males-and-…
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Many women who've been involved with transwomen who are AGP, would agree, there is a strong element of pornography. Not all the time, but it's safe to say, that it's the opinion of this account, that pornography serves to validate & normalise this behaviour. 3/* #transwidowsOz
On another note, while reading articles on sexuality & gender for couples who have a transitioning partner, some papers are presenting the concept that female partners have left rather than stay. In my experience, that hasn't happened. However, there's not enough data yet.
And interestingly, all the papers suggest affirmation and sexual therapy for both people in the relationship to learn how to be with each other again. That sounds like conversion therapy to my uneducated eyes, so more reading will need to be done.
Giammattei, Shawn V. “Beyond the Binary: Trans-Negotiations in Couple and Family Therapy.” Family Process 54, no. 3 (2015): 418–34. doi.org/10.1111/famp.1….
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Good afternoon everyone, I hope you have had a fabulous day in Australia and for those who are elsewhere, I hope you have a great day coming up! #transwidowsOz - today, we're going to talk about abuse. 🧵
I present part III of @PankhurstEM's analysis of AGP males in heterosexual relationships, involving unwilling women, coerced into doing things they don't want to do. uncommongroundmedia.com/agp-males-dome… 1/*
It's hard when the domestic abuse that these women experiences doesn't involve physical violence as we understand it. For years, domestic violence, even with the white ribbon campaign has focused on physical abuse, drugs, alcohol etc. 2/* #transwidowsOz #transwidows
This is part II of a series of articles that @PankhurstEM wrote regarding Autogynophilic men in relationships with women. Despite a few people who believe that AGP has been debunked, it hasn't. shorturl.at/bdTY2
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Dr EM discusses the techniques used in these relationships to maintain coercive control, emotional blackmail.
If you support the AGP man as being brave and needing support, you are contributing to the loss of agency that the spouse (wife) has in this situation. #transwidowsOz
If you support the AGP man as being brave and needing support, you are contributing to the loss of agency that the spouse (wife) has in this situation. #transwidowsOz
Women in these relationships are subordinate to the male. AGPs claiming their spouse supports them, is causing deep psychological harm to the woman that they think they love, and their children, by forcing them to accept a change that they did not consent to. #transwidowsOz
So, yesterday I filmed a video, reading Debbie Hayton’s latest justification for public displays of fetishism. My video is informed by child development and safeguarding frameworks
However, for those that are short of time, I’ll be able to give you a summary, now.
No 3 yr old can possibly have AGP, which is an adult paraphillia.
3 yr olds are at Piaget’s pre-operational stage, and believe that dressing up as a thing transforms you into a thing.
No 3 yr old can possibly have AGP, which is an adult paraphillia.
3 yr olds are at Piaget’s pre-operational stage, and believe that dressing up as a thing transforms you into a thing.
If a 3 yr old were to display overt sexualised behaviours, it would be a massive safeguarding red flag.
Childhood ‘cross-dressing’ is only associated with shame and fear in deeply homophobic households.
Adult AGPs like to use retconning to adultify themselves in their memory.
Childhood ‘cross-dressing’ is only associated with shame and fear in deeply homophobic households.
Adult AGPs like to use retconning to adultify themselves in their memory.
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Listening to today’s Women’s Human Rights Campaign webinar where #transwidows Jennifer Kimmel (Ireland) Hrafnihildur Hjaltadottir (IS) and Pauline Kranendonck (LUX) have been giving details of how self-ID affects women and children.
Also Cansu (TU) and Claudia Bergermayer (AT) give compelling testimony.
Stealth employed in IS and LUX to achieve trans rights.
As ever at this time of the year our thoughts turn to the women who still feel trapped in these relationships.
Unable to get out of the insidious drip, drip, drip cycle of compromise and boundary pushing. #transwidows
Unable to get out of the insidious drip, drip, drip cycle of compromise and boundary pushing. #transwidows
The women who feel pressured into accepting the unacceptable for fear of what society will think of them if they leave.
The women who stay to keep a lid on the secret which will blow their family apart. Worn down by being the secret keeper.
